None of my fears can't go where I'm headed
I’m usually not the type to look up the lyrics of a song, but when I heard the mood 4 ever song by Beyonce from the Gift album, I was drawn to check out the lyrics. So, I looked up the lyrics and I was instantly drawn to this statement “none of my fears can’t go where I’m headed”. Can you relate? Well, say it a couple of times before moving on 1….2….3… OK! I hope this affirmation has somehow helped to shake off some of the uneasiness that is currently weighing you down. Whatever it is, you can get through it.
How are you? Happy new year! I can still say that since we are still in January. I feel like I haven’t kept you up to date like forever. Let me start, I am well on all fronts – work, family and living life is keeping me busy in a good way. If you follow me on Instagram (@sonish_space) you get to see a bit more.
To become successful in anything we have to take action despite being scared, to be courageous in the face of fear
Ok, let’s talk about this famous word ‘FEAR’ or should I say emotion? Fear is a word and emotion we are all familiar with. What is Fear? Fear is defined by google as “an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm”. I have experienced this unpleasant emotion all my life. I am feeling it right now writing this post, but guess what, you are reading this post. Did you get the giveaway of how to deal with fear?
Fear will always be part of our lives. I have never met anyone who hasn’t experience any unpleasant emotions daily. If you are not part of the statistics, please share your strategy and by the way, which planet are you from? because in this current world we live in we have become excessively fearful, which is as a result of so many underlying factors. .. are you thinking so few right now?….Think about that.
Fear will always be part of your life. You have to choose to use fear as a springboard to push yourself forward instead of allowing it to cripple you. Trust me, fear can cripple you if you don’ deal with it. I am a living testimony. I use to fear what people will say or think about me, losing my job, death, not having enough money, losing my family and well the list is endless. One thing I have come to realise is that some things cannot be fixed, but can be adequately managed with daily positive practice. That’s how I have been dealing with my fears. Even during the positive practice, there will be bad days and good days. So you have to learn to appreciate deeply the good days because you will need to call on them during the bad days.
What is fear to me? Fear is my sceptic inner voice that is always the first to ask me questions as soon as I decide to step outside of my comfort zone, using all my past mistakes as references to caution me. At times in a good way, I created this voice fortunately and unfortunately. How you may ask? I have consciously and unconsciously fed this voice by just living life. I don’t blame this voice because, in the past, I paid too much attention to it and let it drown my other reasoning voices. Now, if this voice is shouting one thing I tend to do the opposite. Like the saying goes, whatever you focus on expands.
How do I deal with fear? In so many ways, but here are a few ways that I deal with fear every day and I hope you can resonate with one at least.
Here we go:
- I fill my mind with positive things – by doing things that make me laugh, I surround myself with positive people (find your tribe), reading an inspiring book or simply listening to my favourite music (I have a playlist called ‘my happy songs’), podcasts or preachings. I also surround myself with positive affirmations at work and at home.
- Smile more – I was reading a HuffPost and it states that one way to deal with fear is to smile. SMILE. I love to smile and I had a haha moment because I love to smile. I always find something to smile about. TRUST ME, there is so much happening around you that will put a smile on your face. FORCE IT if you may, but just smile.
- Let things flow. My expectations and attachment to things and people have decreased over the years. Well, in the past 3 years at least. Not like I don’t care, but I am not as fearful now as to what might happen if I lose people or things. I now allow things to flow. Whatever will be, will be.
It’s ok to be fearful, but don’t let it stop you. Sure, fear is usually a reaction to something happening around us, but the feeling of fear always starts from within. So, check yourself regularly and resolve issues as they arise. Remember, if you created it, you can take it away too.
My style Corner
Are you a street style person? I do love a street style look and in all fairness, a nice pair of jeans, a T-shirt and a statement heels can take you far. Try it. Did you notice my mobile accessory? I got mine from pyrnlife in coco. This is my go-to now because I am tired of my phone getting lost in my handbag. Being a mother of a toddler I have to carry so many things in my handbag for just in case- mess, bribery snacks for the foreseen behaviours. With all that in my handbag no wonder my phone always get lost in my handbag.