“Stop beating yourself  up. You are a work in progress, which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once”

A little step towards change can make a great difference and I have a good example, my sister. My sister has gone into this mindset of deliberately making time to relax and she is very strict on it. At around 8pm she is already in bed, switched off everything and half an hour or so later she is fast asleep. So I asked her why the change, because she used to a night owl like me up all night and wake tired the next day, rushing to get ready for work… Ridiculous I know. Throughout the day at work, I will be telling myself that when I get home, after my chores I will go to bed early and early always ends up to be  11pm or midnight (night owl). Back to my sister’s new change, apparently, she listened to a preaching couple of weeks ago about making time to relax, just relax. I’m not quite sure the detail of the preaching but in a nutshell, she said, the preacher was talking about how life can burn us out continually, through work, relationship, family etc. but it’s our choice to always make time to rejuvenate ourselves every day. I’m really happy for her and she is making great progress with her routine. I think there is an art to relaxing that I need to learn, which I started yesterday. I made it to bed at 9.30pm but I couldn’t fall asleep till midnight… I really tried. It’s a process that I will not give up on till I master it fully (almost, am hoping for). I’m planning to listen to the preaching which I believe will put me in the same mindset as her. That should have been the start but oh well never too late to go back and start from the beginning.

Hope you are doing great? Goodness me it’s the 3rd of the eight months in 2016 already…. Let me try that again ALREADY!!!! Like Chinua Achebe, says ‘time and tide wait for no man’. If you are still hesitant to start that new business venture, pursue something you love, or try something new. I think NOW is best, because you will never get back the moment wasted.  Go and live life and explore all the great possibilities out there, because whatever is in the past will remain in the past, strive to reach the possibilities ahead of you and I bet you will finally come to the realization that limitations are only created in your head.

I say the above not only for you but am speaking to myself, no am SCREAMING it right now in my head. SONIA BABY GIRL YOU GOT THIS. This is your life, get hold of it and reach out as far as you can and make every moment counts.

Enjoy the rest of your day and keep reaching for what lies ahead.

My Fashion Corner:

I know, off the shoulders are now trending big time, a friend of mine wrote on her blog how she is a fashion laggard as she just got her first off the shoulders top, I told her that she is way ahead of me then. So this outfit is a test for when I finally get my off the shoulders top to be in the trend ( I really don’t follow trend) but I love this one. We were going through our clothing me and my sister (we were literally forced by my husband to get rid of some or he will take some to the dump) I know he wouldn’t do it but the poor guy doesn’t have anywhere to put his stuff the house is full of clothes and shoes mainly mine. I have gotten rid of so many during Christmas. That’s another story on its own, but yeah I found this sweater during that process and I was like hmmm mmm I love the colour and I tried it on and now you know what happened next, it was gifted to my sister but it was way too big for her(lucky me). I got this ripped jeans a year ago and when i tried it on recently it was way too big for me (I think the squats are finally showing some results). So I pair the two for the oversized effect,


Sweater: Old, Jeans: I seriously can’t remember, Heels: Tony Bianco, Bag: the iconic, Glasses: Police


  1. When it comes to my sleep sister girl I like to keep to my routine. In bed by 10pm but things don’t always go according to plan. You look amazous(amazing and gorgeous all rolled into one). Yes I think being a fashion laggard is great because I get to buy pieces for half the price or sometimes 80% less after the super fashionistas have finished killing themselves over nothing. Some items they may not have even worn before I join the queue. Let’s talk about those jeans sister girl, I seriously need to finish a whole large bottle of moisturizer on my legs to be able to pull that one off lol. Oh, your poor husband, I feel for him, tell him to call my husband lol. He’s only now got one little corner in the wardrobe. The other day he said he will soon have to build me a drive through wardrobe and I pretended I was angry while secretly praying for him to win the lottery so he can just go ahead and do it! Enjoy the rest of your week dear.

    1. You always make me laugh Elsie, in a good way. I love the new word (smiling) Exactly I love waiting and getting things on sales. LOL don’t we all do the guilty tricks on hubby and silently wishing for that dream wardrobe. Thanks so much for your amazing support.

  2. I love how daring and experimentive you are with your outfits…. This look works for you…. Different, but good!!!! I am so in love with the top and bag. Wishing you a blessed remainder of the week hunny.

  3. I absolutely love the positive and empowering post. I really needed it. I am such a night owl myself and that needs to change asap although I’ve been saying this forever.
    And I love the look. I am also so so behind with this off-shoulder trend, I keep telling myself that I’ll get something, but I just never get around to it.
    Great post sister. I loved it

    1. You are just adorable. Thanks so much. Hopefully you find something that one off the shoulders top that work for you soon.

  4. You’re so right, rest is essential. I still struggle with maintaining the balance. This weekend definitely expressed that. However, it’s something that can be worked on.

    Thanks for sharing. Love the outfit!

    Funmi x

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